Can't We All Just Get Along?

I want to share something that has been weighing heavily on my mind.

I don't pretend to be an expert in marriage. Mine fell apart right before my eyes. But that doesn't mean it wasn't good at times. But I do have something to say about it. There is a lot of give and take in marriage. But you have to give as much as you take. It takes work to make a marriage work. Not from one person but from both people. And I'm not just talking work to make the relationship work and keep the marriage together. I'm talking about helping each other out. Yes, guys, I mean housework and helping care for the kids. And yes, ladies, I mean yard work.

You thought I was going to say something about how God created marriage and to keep it sacred. All that is true, don't get me wrong. But He created us as equals...to work together. Not against each other.

So, I think it is a wise idea to sit down with your spouse and come up with some kind of game plan. And compromise. Did you hear me? COMPROMISE. I know that's hard to do but sometimes we all need to bite the bullet and do something we all don't want to do. And this can work in all aspects of your decision-making together. Not just household chores. But everything. Yeah, I know. Some of you are rolling your eyes at me. I'll get off my soap box in a minute.

If you are married and you are reading this, I have a couple of reading suggestions for you. In your own time I challenge you all to read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman and His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F Harley, Jr. In the last one ladies you will read the His Needs part and guys you will read the Her Needs part. I tried to get J to read both of them but sadly he never did. I just hope and pray that one day he finds someone who makes him happy.

Okay, I'm off my soap box now. Thanks for listening!

I'm Back!

It's been a while since I have posted anything. And I could come up with a million excuses as to why. But the truth of the matter is a lot of stuff has happened in the last few months that has kept me from keeping up with my blog. It started with school, then the move to Colorado. That's when things started looking better for us...or so I thought. In October J decided he wanted a divorce. And I'm sure if he is reading this he is mad at me for posting it. But it was a devastating blow and I think it deserves mention. Once he told me I started getting things in line to move back to my home town of Lufkin. I needed to be where my support system was. So in December, I called up a couple of friends and we started the long process of packing up the house and driving the 18 hours back to Texas. My sister had already found a house for me and was helping me get everything ready to move in. So, we get the truck and the car packed up and leave Colorado behind.

New chapter in my life now. It's now May. Things are pretty tough right now. But I am staying positive. There is a lot I have to be thankful for even though there are times I feel like I may not make it through the day. I have my kids, my family, my friends, a job, and most importantly Jesus.

For a while I thought He left me. But it took me a long time to realize I left Him. I was angry with Him for leaving me, but all along I realize I was angry with myself. I am at peace with that now. And I thank Him every day for the things He has blessed me with. He is in my heart now and I feel Him there with me every day now.

I used to use this blog as a creative outlet. Anything from crafting and sewing to cooking would be in here. I'm not sure exactly which way I want to take this blog now but I will know it when I find it. Right now, though, just look for random posts about anything and everything. I know it's been a while. But I hope this explains a little bit as to why. I hope you keep reading and commenting. Love to you all!!